He Said – 10/9/09

When you’re in a relationship and someone says you need to take a break, it means one of two things. Either they just want to be by themselves for a while or your relationship is about to end. Breaks are never a good sign, but they may be a long-term helper in the relationship. However, this is usually only if the other person needs space.

Basically, you’re in a relationship and someone says, "I think we need to take a break." What’s the best thing you can do? Let them! They must have a good reason to want to be alone. They might need to think things through about the relationship. They also might feel smothered and just want a couple of days to themselves. If you want to ask them why, then that’s your right for being the other half of the relationship. Just try your best not to fight, it gets you nowhere. All you need to know for sure is that after this break you both need to have a talk about your relationship.

On the other hand, if your significant other says, "we need to take a break," that can translate to, "we are about to break up." It’s as simple as that. Sometimes a person in the relationship just doesn’t know how to vocalize it. There might not even be a problem in the relationship. We’re in college and even if you’re fine with the person you’re with, you just might not want a relationship at the moment. If that’s the case, then it’s time to suck it up and move on.

Taking a break is something that can plague a relationship. Only because the person on the other end has no idea what you’re thinking. The only thing running through their minds is when you’re going to call and what’s going on with you. My only advice for when you’re in a relationship is do what’s best for you or neither partner will be happy.