She Said – 4/30/10

If you’re in a relationship, what’s the best way to avoid a summer romance with someone else?

The important thing to ask yourself before you leave for summer is how important this relationship is to you. If it’s something that doesn’t really matter, then maybe you should break up or take a break for the summer. After all, you want to have fun over the break instead of trying to make something work with someone you don’t really care about. However, if you really like this person, then here are some ways to make sure that you don’t stray from the relationship.

Make sure you make an effort to talk with this person at least a few times a week. I wouldn’t encourage overcommunication, because this can make both of you feel boxed in. Talking a few times a week lets you feel free, but it still allows you to catch up with one another.

If you do like your significant other better, but it is a sort of out-of-sight out-of-mind situation, then take some time to decide whether the consequences of cheating or breaking up are worth the pain you’ll feel over losing this person.

Make sure to visit each other as well. At least once a month, make a commitment to see each other. A visual reminder of this person will either confirm the strength of your relationship or could even show you that you don’t want to be with this person. In that case, it’s best to break up and enjoy some summer flingage.

The most important thing you can do over the summer is be honest. Lying is almost never a good thing in a relationship.