Cut the B.S. – 10/01/09

Today, my boyfriend of one year called and broke up with me. He’s attending school in Boston and I’m stuck here trying to get over it. The worst part is getting over it alone. All of my friends are back home and can’t talk to me as much as I need them to. I talk it over with my roommate, but we’ve only known each other for a month. How much is she really willing to listen? What do I do?

First off, let me say that I’m really sorry about your boyfriend breaking up with you. Now that I’m done feeling bad for you, allow me to be honest. If after one year he can’t stick it out because you’re in college, then the relationship really wasn’t going anywhere. The end just came a little sooner than you thought. The best thing for you to do now is to stop calling your home friends so often. They are the last link between you and your boyfriend and they really can’t help you move on with this. The only thing your home friends are doing is reminding you of what is no longer there (i.e. your relationship).

Talking to your roommate can prove more helpful than you think. She’s the fresh pair of eyes on your relationship. More likely than not, she’s really going to see your relationship from a realistic perspective.

The most important thing to take from all of this is not to rebound. I promise you that you will regret it if you try. Don’t try to ignore the grief and push it back with alcohol, different guys, or other destructive behavior. It really won’t work. Besides, there are worse things in life. I mean, he could have broken up with you through text message.